Dear Vilke, Hope you'll see this. I just saw your post in response to the thread about spouses, both caring and uncaring. The thread is a few weeks old but I have been out of the loop due to some life upheavals. Anyway, we did end the relationship and, although I am very sad about this ending after 9 years together, I also feel relief. Now, when I feel exhausted after work, I can just sleep -- no one is wanting me to entertain, travel etc. This more simple life will suit my illness. So -- thanks for the moral support!