what do you do whan

Discussion in 'Fibromyalgia Main Forum' started by homesheba, Feb 26, 2007.

  1. homesheba

    homesheba New Member

    you have fibro, arthritis, crohns, r.h. factor, hep c and sogrens and more fun stuff ....
    and you live with your mom and hubby and they bash you cause you either dont do enough for them or its not good enough?
    and you actually hear them talking about you...:(
    and yesterday i actually heard mom talking to my sister about me bad
    which broke whats left of my heart....

    plus -
    i have 4 dogs that i am the only one who can care for them- (i get atleast some affection...)
    so i cant pick up and leave and plus i have no money to do so....
    any suggesstions?
    forget about talking to them,
    dh is a taker and mom is a martyr...sigh.
    it sure doesnt make me better health wise...
    i am miserable here.
  2. sues1

    sues1 New Member

    And with all your illness you are more sensitive to all. I know I am.

    Try and see a counsler, someone you can talk to that does not know you or want anything from you. What you say stays with them. Get it all out where you can sort through it and maybe come up with some solutions to all.

    Blessings, Love, Susan
  3. mejlee

    mejlee New Member

    I, like you, have multiple issues. And I am forced (for economic reasons) to rent from my mother. I can feel your pain. I think many of us can relate in some ways.

    My mother is both a taker and a martyr!!! Although the rent is cheap it is not free and emotionally she is distroying both my daughter and myself.

    My daughter is a teenager, she is both wonderfully supportive and incredibly draining on me at the same time.

    I have a chronic pain specialist, her official title is "Social Worker". Counsilors can not see me because neither they or I can "fix" what is wrong in my life. (stupid insurance co.) But she can. I explained to her that I can not live my life day to day with out having someone to about things with. Someone to say... Try this or that... or just "It's okay to be mad or hurt by these things."

    Wish I had more helpful advice and I hope you can find someone to help you get through this.

    Jen

  4. homesheba

    homesheba New Member

    just knowing im not the only one that is going crazy helps...:)
    and it does help to talk to you all here. i apprieate it very much yoi writing me. i sure hope things will improve for you also.
    god bless.