I've been dealing with CFS for about 8 years. I've gone through many treatment protocols, and am now working with one of the FFCs. But that's many hours away. My husband and I both see a local nurse practitioner to oversee our antidepressants. We saw her this past week. We always have bloodwork due before our appointment, and this past one, she checked our EBV along with the usual stuff, and my husband's IgeneX Lyme test was in. Although I didn't test "CDC positive", my own IgeneX test was four positives and one indeterminate -- positive 'enough' for the FFC doc to put me on antibiotics. My EBV has been high ever since I've first gotten it tested (two years now). Sooooooo, the RNP said to my husband -- your IgeneX is not "CDC positive", but, of course, he had several positive bands (and we know he was bitten, because he had a bulls-eye rash about two summers ago). And she said he EBV was the highest she'd ever seen. Then she turned to me -- at least, she said, it was the highest she'd seen until she took MY results out of the fax machine. My father-in-law died three months ago, so my husband has been under quite a lot of stress. That has translated to work and home as well, so my stress level has been up. Lately, my husband has been uncharacteristically tired -- and we have a business together, which requires mental sharpness -- that's suffering. So he's going up on the Valtrex level for a bit AND starting doxy for the Lyme. In the meantime, the both of us are barely functional at home. The RNP considers the both of us basically as having 'active' EBV along with everything else. Our 9-year-old son is fairly self-sufficient, but our lack of energy is not great for him. How does anyone out there deal with TWO chronically exhausted people in the house at a time? My husband has not dealt with this for long enough to understand the necessity of cutting back on social and other obligations, so his frustration with himself is a ROYAL PAIN, not to mention an additional stress for me, and I already deal with work, son, house, and wife duties. Not to mention (in my selfish way) that I now have no support for my own situation. Any words of help? Hopefully we can get his condition dealt with, but I imagine it will be a while before he is out of the woods.