Discussion in 'Fibromyalgia Main Forum' started by Lolalee, Jun 23, 2006.

  1. Lolalee

    Lolalee New Member

    Here I am again...sore throat, aching muscles, ready to go back to bed....why??? I got out in my garden to trim one plant and that one plant turned into many plants and pulling weeds and oh yeah, the sprinkler missed this one so I'd better water it and oh no, that vine is taking over the Azalea bush, etc., etc...

    I love my garden(s), but I lose track of time out there and before I know it I've pushed myself and I can hardly walk. So, I got to thinking whether or not others can relate. If so, what is the one thing that you push yourself for because you love doing it, or because you have to do it?

  2. suzette1954

    suzette1954 New Member

    and my garden is the first thing people see when they come up to the house. Its all weeds now and I cant do a thing about it. I save as much energy as I can to cook dinner and wash clothes and see the grandbabies.

  3. kjfms

    kjfms Member

    for the best person I know...me. I am worth it!

    Great question,

    Karen :)
  4. Hope4Sofia

    Hope4Sofia New Member

    My family - my kids are still young and very energetic! It's usually more than I can handle.

    I also push myself for projects.

    I love projects - usually to do with decorating my home or yard.

    I get depressed when I can't muster up the energy for them. And it always takes me forever to complete a project - especially if I'm pacing myself.

    Frankly, everything is a bit of a push - isn't it.

  5. millennia

    millennia New Member

    The other day I took her to playground, I swand on the swings and ran through the sprinklers and I'm still paying for it! But it was nice to hear that she had the best day of her life for once, when according to her, most days I'm responsible for giving her the worst day of her life!
  6. libra55

    libra55 New Member

    even though I don't think they appreciate it sometimes!LOL just kidding.

    I just went to a two-day college orientation with my older daughter. It absolutely exhausted me but I made it through. She has Asperger's Syndrome and I have always gone that extra mile to make sure she gets accommodations, therapy, medicines etc. Her doctor is located an hour away. Many times over the years I didn't feel up to driving her there but I did it because I knew it was vital for her well-being.

    My younger one plays sports and we have gone on the road for soccer, basketball, and track at one time or another. That has been exhausting too. I don't know how I have done it. I must have had an angel watching over me.

    I also entertain my kids' friends at my house a lot, even though the place is messy most of the time. I don't think kids care about that though. My mother was very uninvolved in my life and I want things to be different for my kids. so even if I feel rotten I will let them have a friend over and just hang out or play quietly, they are old enough to do that. My only exception is the pool, I am always out there when the kids are in it, even if I am lying in the chaise lounge under the umbrella.

    I want to give an appearance of normalcy to my home even though I have these dd's, I don't want the kids to feel penalized. when I am REALLY too sick to have anyone over I don't hesitate to make that clear to them and they pretty much are cool with that.

    I also push hard for my pets, when one of the furbabies had an eye ulcer I took her two hours away to the vet specialist many many times until we got it fixed, and took care of her after surgery, and that was bone crushing fatigue.

    I worry that there will come a day I won't be able to. Some days I go on sheer willpower.

  7. CockatooMom

    CockatooMom New Member

    I used to push myself to clean the house. Even if I did one room at a time, it would be "perfect" when I was done.
    Fortunately, we hired someone to clean the house every week now, and I lowered my expectations.

    I also used to do a lot of lawn care, weed-whacking, and trimming hedges. And, I'd do it AFTER I came home from the gym from a 2 hour work out. (Not anymore!)
    I might mow with the riding mower, but that's about it.

    I still push myself to:

    fix a nice meal and clean up, or make my hubby a homemade chocolate cake w/PB icing

    wash the dishes

    to get to the gym 3 times a week, if only for a cardio class

    to take a shower and fix my hair,
    which I need to do now! LOL

    Lotsa love,
  8. nonnie1967

    nonnie1967 New Member

    Which are really the same thing. I HAVE to work because my family needs my paycheck. And because my job expects me not to take sick leave, I drag myself to work no matter how rotten I feel.

    And since my husband works nights, there are a lot of times when I am the only person around (or awake) to care for the boys. I may not have a lot to give (once the work week is over, I often don't have much left), but I give what I can. I constantly worry that it is not enough, though. :-(
  9. katykat24

    katykat24 New Member

    push myself to get back into college, to get my degree and maybe go to grad school, i push myself to believe in my dreams, i push myself to work so i can afford to go to school and to give me something to look forward to everyday instead of sitting home feeling depressed about this dd, i push myself to go out and spend time with people that i love

    and i totally love reading everyone's response here!
  10. pinsnneed1es

    pinsnneed1es New Member

    wake up when my 2 yr old notice that there is sun outside.
  11. lovethesun

    lovethesun New Member

    andgoing with my husband to listen to music(He's the business agent with the Local Musician's union.
  12. Aberlaine

    Aberlaine Member

    I push myself for my two grandchildren who I babysit for every Thursday afternoon. I've been wanting grandchildren for so long, and I'm not going to let some disease keep me from enjoying them completely.

    I also push myself for my 10-year old black lab. I try to take her out for a short walk every day. But sometimes we don't make it. But she understands.
  13. Lolalee

    Lolalee New Member

    It is so interesting to read about the things we all push ourselves for. Definitely there are some things that one has no choice about, i.e. raising children. I've said on another post that I just had my two grandsons ages 7 and 5 for 2 weeks. I really pushed myself for them and I'm paying for it now bigtime...but it was worth it.

    Please keep the posts coming. It's really helpful and enlightening.

  14. MamaDove

    MamaDove New Member

    my beautiful labradors...

    I just pushed myself right into a flare today...

    My oldest boy, Dylan (11) seemed to be in pain yesterday, lying around and just not being himself...He woke me at 3am pacing so I got up (not that I sleep), I lay on the floor with him (my poor hips and neck) and wiped a cold cloth over his head for a 1/2 hour, checked him all over, nothing unusual...

    I know my boys are healthy, they only get the best of everything and all my love...

    Called my vet in the am, brought him right in and determined that it 'could' be an old surgery on his foot causing phantom pains, but it brought my poor boy down for almost an entire day...

    We ran bloodwork and even took an xray to rule out bone cancer...His bones look like a 'pup' and his bloodwork is that of a 2 year old...

    My hard work pays off...I only slept 5 mins at a time today and I think with one eye open too...

    I sacrificed alot for my chocolate boy Moose, he had epilepsy and I spent many sleepless nights and days following him and protecting him from everything around him...I am still grieving his loss hard, guess I always will...

    Hubby comes in a close second tho...

    Peaceful days ahead~Alicia
  15. sunshine54

    sunshine54 New Member

    I rode as a 'Bunk Bunny' in my husband's semi to our hometown in Indiana last Thursday wearing a ankle cast to see his family, our friends, to go to our home church and to get his trailer loaded with donated items and off we went to a small town about 20 miles south of Gallup, New Mexico to the Navajo Reservations.

    By the time we got there on Tuesday I was mentally and physcially exhausted; however, when hubby opened the doors of his trailer and watched the eyes of the Navajo people as they unloaded and begin to pick out items (couches, chairs, computers and the list goes on) I knew it was well worth the pain.

    We did not get home until this past Friday and I haven't recovered fully, but I know, in my heart and in God's eyes, I did the right thing.

  16. Cromwell

    Cromwell New Member

    We have an autistic 12 year old. I push myself all the time for him. It is all the school meetings, fighting for a proper classroom-takes so much time. Then I also have other kids come here too who also have autism.

    I cannot tell you how many really hard meetings I have to fight my way through just to try and get him a halfway decent education.

    I love to garden but I have a ton of weeds that will just have to live!!!

    Love Anne Crom
  17. HppeandMe

    HppeandMe New Member

    My children. They are all I have!!
  18. sisland

    sisland New Member

    i'm going to say the garden ! and i go driving almost everyday up to the Mountians! they are only a few miles away! and i really like heading down to the lakes and rivers around here!!...............................................I've worked myself up to walking almost a mile a day so that's definatly pushing it! sometimes i miss a day hear and there on the walking!

    I only have strawberries and tomatoes in the garden and a few flowers like poppies, daises, batchlor buttons, and blackeyed susans, they are all perinenals! Yea!! i do all this stuff to keep myself sane!! the driving is in the afternoons only about a half hour or so!........................and when the kids are home i'm usually cooking or babysitting their dogs!! love it tho! wouldn't trade it for anything!! bless you!! sisland

  19. justlooking

    justlooking New Member

    My children. I have 3, aged 13, 11 and 7. I try my best to be at all of their events, even if it kills me. (Of course I don't sign them up for too many events LOL) I also make sure I get them to and from school and I am there for them when they are home.

    I am able to do these things only because I gave up the small stuff... I don't try to keep the house perfect, or my car washed, stopped cooking time consuming dinners, or shop at the mall (online shopping.. YAY!). When I can't get to their events my husband goes instead and when I feel I am unable to give them enough attention I try to hang out by watching movies or taking them to Chuck E Cheese ( I can sit in a booth and they can go WILD!!)

    After a tough day/week I need rest to recover so they go to an after school program during the school year and summer camp over the summer. I try to keep my activity to a minimum while they are at school so I can be there for them when they get home. I feel very blessed to have the opportunity to be here for them, even if the trade off is being sick and in bed so much of the time.

    Great topic!
    [This Message was Edited on 06/23/2006]
  20. Scapper

    Scapper New Member

    I'm with you -- gardening it is!!


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