What to say to a new, non-believing, doctor

Discussion in 'Fibromyalgia Main Forum' started by Sidereus, Jan 29, 2003.

  1. Sidereus

    Sidereus New Member

    Hello all,

    I will be seeing my doctor again next week. The first visit went well except for the fact that he said that "there is no proof for CFS". Which may or may not be true, but he also gave the impression that he didn't feel that it was real. FM for that matter also.

    I am curious to know what I can give him, in the form of a print-out, for my next visit. Words seem to fail me and a tend to ramble without getting to the "point" (due to my inability to form words as well as I should). I plan to circle, underline, etc., the important points as it pertains to me.

    Thanks for all replies,

    Richard

    PS - I am posting another topic about a current medical concern/symptom(s)
  2. Mikie

    Mikie Moderator

    Well then, I will be needing to find another doctor. How can you treat what you do not believe exists?

    Love, Mikie
  3. layinglow

    layinglow New Member

    I'm with Mikie on that one.
    Before I saw her answer to your question, my suggestion was cancel your appointment, it is a waste of your time, and money.
    Find a Doctor who specializes in FM/CFS, and has experience in various treatments, keeps abreast of latest research, and chooses to be an advocate.
    After All---how can you be treated by someone who denies the existence of the disease you are wanting to be treated?
    Those of us with these disorders are taxed enough by life in general with these symptoms, trying to convince a disbelieving doctor, adds to our stress, and exhaustion. One day research will hold the answer, and then these Drs. will come around. Until then, you will be better served, elsewhere.
    Best Wishes,
    LL
  4. Sidereus

    Sidereus New Member

    Thanks for the replies.

    I should have stated in my previous message that I do not have insurance (can't work based on condition). I am forced to go to the local clinic. Personally, the doctor was very nice and seemed willing to help me, except that he outright said that he doesn't believe in the condition. Not a good sign, I agree, but who else can I see?

    In light of this, any possible document/article that I can give to the new doc?

    Thanks,

    richard


  5. LauraLea

    LauraLea New Member

    If you feel you need to stay with this doctor do to have no insurance, then go to the home page and print some of the information you believe will be helpfull to him.

    Try a few paragraphs at a time because he won't want to read a bunch of stuff.

    You might mail him info now and then to keep him informed and hope he becomes more aware of the needs of his patients.

    I understand it's easy to say find a new doctor, but if you don't have insurance it's not that easy. If you are will to put your time into it, then do so.

    Remember he may not be willing to accept your help or guidance so be prepared that you might be dissapointed or you may fill you went out of your way and he didn't even read any of the info you gave to him.

    Hope it works out.
  6. ssMarilyn

    ssMarilyn New Member

    the only thing you can say to a non-believing doctor is "See ya!" Don't waste your time and energy trying to convince him of something there's no proof of. He won't listen to a lay-person!

    Marilyn :)
  7. layinglow

    layinglow New Member

    Richard,
    I do not have ANY insurance, either.
    I still stick to my original answer.....

    I tried inducting a slew of non-believing doctors, prior to deciding it was imperative to find a CFS/FMS Specialists.
    It was a waste of my time, energy (which is already nonexistent), and stressful to boot, increasing my exhaustion and pain.
    I was receiving NO treatment, and spending money to do so.

    The Specialist I am seeing is much more price concious than any of the previous physicians I saw, and we try natural remedies and generic whenever possible. Unnecessary testing...which had run into the thousands...was deemed a waste.

    Being unemployable due to this illness was costing me $30,000. a year in lost wages plus thousands in self pay medical bills, due to seeing Drs. that had not a clue nor cared to treat me. Now I am no longer bedridden, or in excruciating pain. There may come a time, when I can become employed, soon.

    If we are looking at dollars and cents here....more can be gained by effective treatment. Do the figures.

    I will scrounge up every last penny to see someone who is willing to treat me effectively, than spend my last dime with someone who is not.

    You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink *wink* I gave up on trying to convince non-believers...lol

    Best to You!
    LL