What would you do??? What IF......

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by morningsonshine, Dec 13, 2007.

  1. morningsonshine

    morningsonshine New Member

    Hey all,
    Just wondering what chose you would make if you found yourself in this scary situation!!

    And if you are male, what would you want your spouse to do!!

    I had a dream this morning that woke me up at 6:00. It was not a nice one!!
    My husband works in law enforcement, and at times has had to handle some very unstable people. And he has been threatened in the past. We also have children.

    My dream this morning was about some gunman threating to kill our family. We knew he didn't know were we lived, and he wasn't suppose to be around our area, so we were just going about our normal day.

    Later in that day we were all in the house and some nieghbor lady came in and started telling us that this man was in the area. And was going around shooting up people looking for us.

    Just then i looked up and from the living room i could just see into the porch. And i saw that man just standing in our porch with a rifle.

    I told my family "he here, he's in the house!" And i was standing right by the door in the living room. My husband went towards the danger, and the kids kinda scattered, but my middle one was still next to me. So i grabbed him, and went out the door with him.

    Since the man was already in the house it seemed the most logical thing to do was get out with at least one child before he started shooting everyone.

    I went thur the field and out onto the road and flagged a car down and put my son in the back seat. I figured they could take him to someplace safe and call for help.

    Now here is wear i had to make my choose, and i woke up before i made it. I didn't know if i should get in the car with the one child i had saved and take care of him. And make sure he had at least one surviving parent.

    Or if i should risk my life and go back to the house and see if i could save another child. Which at this point i didn't even know if it was to late or not. I might be giving my life for an already "gone" child, and then leaving the one that is saved with no parent.

    Okay, please remember this is all a dream and don't get overly upset about this!!!!

    I'm just wondering hypothetically what you think you would do?? I was torn between my head, save and take care of the one you have, and my heart!! Go back!! As long as there's a chance!!

    It's interesting that i woke up before i made the descion. I plan to ask my hubby when he get up what he would have wanted me to do in that situation.

    It will be interesting to hear his answer.


  2. morningsonshine

    morningsonshine New Member

    That was what my hubby said also.

    I was wondering if i should even post this, even tho it was just a dream. I didn't want to upset anyone who has been in a violent situation before.

    Just interested in different answers. We never do know how we would really respond. Sounds like you handled your situation very well.

    I have a girlfriend that was working in a Casino when it was robbed, and it messed her up for a couple years, even tho no one was hurt.

  3. rockgor

    rockgor Well-Known Member

    I don't think there is a good answer for this problem. There are no rules or guidelines to follow. To make a good decision you'd have to be able to predict the future.


    I ordered some flowers today for my aunt in Rochester. The gal at the florist shop in Rochester said she had relatives in Harmony. Small you know what.

  4. PVLady

    PVLady New Member

    If you are truly concerned you might have a safe room in your home where you can all retreat and no one can get in. In that room have a phone connection, also have your cell phone with you at all times.

    Many people have a safe room in their homes here in California since we have a high crime rate in many areas.

    If you had a safe room all you would worry about is getting everyone into it and calling the police. I believe these rooms have a bullet proof door.

  5. jewels920

    jewels920 New Member

    My father was in law enforcement and we were actually threatened by someone he had problems with. Not the way your dream went, but he would drive slowly by the house with his headlights off many times a night, threatened to douse me with gasoline and burn me up if he ever caught me by myself...my father took me to the bus stop and waited for the bus in the afternoons to walk me home. Dad didn't even mow the grass unarmed.

    My man is a cop and I work as a dispatcher. And although what you had was a dream, unfortunately, you don't have to be in law enforcement to face a situation with an armed party.

    I don't know how old your kids are, but I would recommend having a discussion with them about what to do if there was ever somebody in the house that shouldn't be there. We have discussions with our children about what to do if there's a fire...I think it makes sense to have a discussion about where to meet in the house if you're separated or designate a "safe room", which can be a closet with a deadbolt and a phone. I wouldn't get too graphic about the possibilities but I see no harm in a hypothetical plan of what do do IF...

    Love and hugs.


  6. morningsonshine

    morningsonshine New Member

    Your answers aren't what expected!! But they are very good, and food for thought.

    Because it was a dream i didn't expect real practical advise! But with the world we live in today, and my hubby's job exposing us to unstable people.

    You guys gave me some good ideas to think about and discuss with my family.

  7. Rosiebud

    Rosiebud New Member

    many of us have really vivid dreams because of our illness.
    I have many dreams where I'm left wondering the next day if I did the right thing or not - it's like a film.

    I don't think a dream like this has an answer and thats why you had it - it's a conundrum - in that situation you wouldn't have time to think, it would just all play out and you would just react as best you could.

    You cannot choose between your children and hopefully you'll never have to.

  8. therealmadscientist

    therealmadscientist New Member

    I consulted my free online psychoanalysis professional therapist (he only charges after the first two minutes).

    He's pretty sure that something Oedipal going on and surmised that the rescued child was male.
    You've probably repressed all this of course, he said, so you won't be able to understand his interpretation without several years of competent therapy by him and his colleagues.

    Briefly, he is sure that you "have something going on" with your male child, and that you feel that your conflicts could only be resolved by the elimination of both your "Father/Husband" and the architypical "Stranger/King" in mortal combat over you.

    He's helped me a lot over my conflictual love affair with my sister-in-laws grandmother's sister (Witch/Love Mother) and with my ambiguous feelings toward several other relatives, so I wouldn't just dismiss his insights.

    Oh, he said he was willing to meet you in personal therapy sessions and help you get rid of your irrational fears of unstable people. For some reason, though, it doesn't seem like a good idea to me. Maybe just change any sleep meds.

    Best of luck, your mr Bill:)lol

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  9. morningsonshine

    morningsonshine New Member

    I missed the other day being on the computor! Did know this came back up!

    Hey Fight, your Dad sounds like an interesting guy!! I don't think i could eat another person, but, i've never been that hungery, thank the Lord!

    There was no talking with this person in my dream, Fight, basically he was there to shoot, and already in the house.

    Mr. Bill, you had me freaked out there!!:0) Glad you stuck that LOL in at the end, i was alittle worried about you!!

    Oedipal, Is that the Oedipus complex!! That's funny! I do have something going on with the males in my house! There's four of them and only one of me.
    Maybe i was subconsciously evening the odds?? But then, i guess, i wouldn't have been concerned about going back.

    It is interesting that my middle child, the one i grabbed, is the most quiet and undemanding. Oh! we could read lots of stuff into this!! LOL

    Hangin, HI!
    That's a sad story, you did what you had too, but i bet you felt guilty about your mom anyways. I'm really sorry. I would have probably done the same thing.

    Rosie, you are so right!! I have really vivid dreams, sometime i can't believe the complicated plots and stuff! The brain is amazing!!
    I had another dream yesterday, it also wasn't a very fun one.
    I watched my dad get bucked of a horse in slow motion, do a complete sommersault and land on his back, on cement!!
    He is an old cowboy who won't admitt he's getting old, and just this fall was bucked of a horse, and dumped fairly hard. First time i heard him say, "i'm getting to old for that cr@p!"

    So, i guess that dream's a no-brainer!!

  10. therealmadscientist

    therealmadscientist New Member


    Now, about your dream with your dad and the horse:)

    (I was a bit worried about being over the top.)

    I think I have this curse wherein I can make up the most outlandish story.....and people will believe me. It's actually a real pain to convince them that I only made it up.

    Then, I explain something that is a bit wierd, but really true.......and no one believes me. Oh, well. Your mr Bill

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