about living with a disrespectful adult child? (a friend of mine is suffering with fibro/cfs/and chronic pain. She is clinically disabled and has just enough money to take care of her own living expenses.) She requires help at home physically and financially. she does not get sympathy or supportive attitudes about her diseases nor does she get treated properly. The daughter behaves like a teenager but she is 30 yrs old and divoriced, and living with her Mother. Her daughter goes out at night, staying gone 1-4 nights per week. She won't get a job unless it pays $2500.mo. So she lives off her Mother's income and friends pay her way too, therefore not having to pay for anything on her own. Everyone enables her to continue this pattern because they like her. she is really a nice person and doesn't get into any trouble. I think she is using her Mother's illness and big heart, to get a "free ride". She doesn't abide by the "rules" of the house, like telling her Mother she will be back in a few hours, but doesn't come home until the next day or two. Her Mother needs her help (grocery store, Dr. appts,cleaning house, etc.) but they are both rude, abrupt and arguementive when they are together. How would you handle these problems if you were the Mother ? (these problems are causing my friend to be very angry & stress out, and I don't know what to tell her) She won't tell her daughter to move out, except as a constant threat. she is too "soft" in the heart. I ask you-How do you motovate a moocher? lol. (she needs her daughter to stay with her, but she needs her daughter to support herself and be considerate of her Mother's needs too) I will give her your advice...she needs a village to raise this Adult child.