I have been my boyfriend for the last 2.5 years and living with him for the last 8 months, He has had depression on and off since he was a teenager and so every one who is close to him just thinks that is the way that he is. I am beginnng to question how much i can take from him, he has been depressed for the last 6 months and he is getting so selfish. I know that this is a symptom of his depression and so i try not to take it to heart but some times i have such a rage building up in me about it. He recently quit his job because his boss upset him leaving me to have to meet all the bills and the mortgage, so i am working a 7 day week at the moment. And he has started smoking, apart from the fact that he has no money and its me who will be paying for them, he is 31 and decided to start smoking 5 days after i found out that my father is dying of a smoking related illness and when i try telling him how up set i am about it he jsut says that he is testing himself to see if he will become addicted. And can not see why its upsetting me so much. He has done many other things that are really very hurtful including not visiting me in hospital when i had my thyriod removed as the doctors thought i had cancer, and i have always forgiven him as everyone has convinced me that its just the depression not who he is. Im wondering if it really is now, or if he has been able to get away with being this way for so long that its just the way that he is and that i should not be with him any longer. He is on anti -depressants and while they calm him down they do not seem to do much else. I love him from the bottom of my heart i really do but i just dont know if i can support him through this for much longer with out it tearing me apart!!!