I had to move back in with my parents 2 years ago at the age of 38. I am still waiting on my disability appeal. This has been a really difficult transition because my mother and I have very different opinions on this subject. I feel that if someone is ill, its a family's job to come together to help if they can, and that I would do that for her if the situations were reversed. Since I dont have a husband there is no one else to rely on. Let me add that she well has the resources to help me out -- her net worth is close to 2Million$ and the basement which she didnt use before is finished, so its now a separate living space for the most part. She feels like she has done this enourmous thing that no other mother has ever done and that I should basically worship at her feet for taking me in when I had no other options. So I am feeling pretty down about everything, especially since she wont pay for medical or anything social which makes it pretty much a comfortable prison cell with no pain management. Which leads to my question(s) -- What is everyone else in a serious flare doing to live independantly while waiting for disability? Do most of you have a spouse who is willing and able to be the sole breadwinner? Have you moved in with relatives? have you moved in with friends? Were you able to get your case expedited? Did you have enough savings to ride the tide until you felt better? I am curious if I am just this big loser who has to live with her parents because she failed at life or if its fairly common among people with FM or CFS/ME to have to return to the proverbial nest? I will add that I had my first symptoms when I was about 24 and this is my third major flare (not a few days here and there but a persistant situation) It seems like just when I get out of the financial hole and am starting to build something I get sick again, so I have never really had the chance to get a solid cushion under myself and being single means one income. I guess I am hoping to be able to show my mother that others are in the same boat.