When I say "who needs me today" that is what I mean, My 82 year old mom lives accross the street from me, every am she ask me "what are you doing today" I say " whoever calls first, and needs me the most" meaning willow (youngest daughter) fms, she has been in sooooo much pain lately, then cheryl, (oldest daughter) cfs, she may call not able to take her 3 children to school, 50 miles round trip for me. I know my time is so limited with each, that nothing that matters is being done, I don't know how to express in words what i'm trying to say, when I read over my own post, sounds like I'm upset with little things that I have to do, and mabe that is it, I would like to do more emportant things, cheryl and willow need to be watched more closely with the meds,eating,doc apt, and their follow ups, what this and that med does and does not do for them, what works, what does not, etc. do you see what I mean? those are the BIG things that matter, not running errands, etc. but if I were not able to do this, who would? so that is what stresses me, If I had more time to get the medical help for then and follow up on it, they could get better, it is just getting worse and worse, and I am getting older and tired, then what? don't get me wrong, whatever I do for my family, is a BIG privelage and love doing it, but how do I find the time in a day to do what I feel is more emportant? and thanks again for letting me express myself.