This may seem like a weird question, and I meant to also say "why are we always fighting anxiety and depression, I didn't think this whole question would fit in the title. Anyway, do you ever feel like when you have ongoing anxiety or depression, that maybe it is warranted? What I mean by that is this: We all have some type of chonic pain or fatigue along with numerous other FM/CFS sysmptoms that can impair the quality of our lives. Along with that, we now have to face a crisis in our economy. The holidays are coming up and this year will be extra hard for me because I lost my father very suddenly this year. I am a single person with only one income and I fear for my job. There seems to be a doom and gloom atmosphere sometimes where I work, and it only adds to my anxiety. I also care for an elderly mom, and I know I will lose her too. Unfortunately, since my father's passing, my sister and I have not been as close, not sure why that is, she tends to close up her feelings, where as I tend to open mine (maybe a little too much). This makes me feel more alone since I don't have hardly any family. All these issues I have brought up are only the tip of the iceberg. I had to deal with a lot of sudden losses in my life including my father, my cat, a sudden car accident which left my car totaled, sudden death of a past boyfriend and continuing problems with FM, money issues and etc. How is one supposed to get past all this and not have anxiety or depression? I have sought out conseling before, which never worked, I felt they were judging me and besides I felt a right to have the anxiety and depression, as strange as that statement might seem to some people, it is my feeling. I needed to open up my feelings on this topic, but for me, I simply don't see how anxiety or depression can be avoided or controlled when life takes us in these directions. I will say one other thing, I am tremendously thankful for all of you on this board and this board does keep me going Hugs to you all, Chelz.