i am just wondering if anyone has this problem, my sons and one grandaughter, (raising), seem to understand, they don't live with me but all three will come in on the weekends and help with things i am to exhausted to do. laundry is a big thing, But here is my complaint and my sons. is my son in law. and other grandaughter, they are living with me, and can't seem to get it in there heads that i can not keep cleaning up after them. they leave messes every where. cloths, dishes, and garbage ( papers,tissues, pop bottles, and toys). today i overdid, and am in to much pain. it evens hurts to type.i have told them, over and over. i am not there maid. i fell over her toys and bruised my leg. he will cook a meal and leave it in the pans, on the stove and never put it away. my 10 yr old grandaughter is very angry that she has to clean up there dishes. and the waste of food. yes the expense is on me he gives me 20 dollars here and there says it should help. sorry so long i guess i just had to vent, i am tired, and this DD has got the best of me. for a woman that hung dry wall, worked 12hrs. a day. this is hard to come to grips with. i push then i pay. well enough of this soap box. just need to know how to deal with some one that doesn't understand the DD.