Since I'm caring for my Mom who has Alzheimers, I immediately went to the Alzheimers board when I found this place last week. But I'm surprised that this message board is not more active. I guess most Caregivers post under the particular disease/problem they're dealing with? Let's get this message board more active and moving! I'll start... My name is Rose, and I'm a 24/7 Caregiver now for 5+ years in our home for my Mother, 82 yo, dx with Alzheimer's in 2000. She's now also in a wheelchair and can't do anything for herself anymore, so she's total care. I'm divorced and, thus, no one else here to help. I have one living brother who only lives 2 blocks from us. He doesn't even bother with us anymore (long story). I have a grown son who can't seem to be bothered either, but does live about 50 miles from us. I have one living Aunt who helps when she can, but she's 77 yo herself. If it wouldn't be for friends, I would have no one. :-( I just can't believe that family can treat someone like this, it's so sad. I plan on keeping Mom at home as long as possible. She does go to daycare 3 dys/wk for about 4 hrs, which is the ONLY break I get. During that time, I also have to run errands and try to have some time to myself. So that's a total of 12 hrs/wk that I have help. I can't work because I can't find a job for those crazy free hrs. I don't know if I could handle doing both. I admire folks who do all this and still work full-time jobs. I don't see how you do it? My biggest problem right now is the wkends. I can never seem to find anyone to watch Mom, thus, I sit at home almost all wkend, every wkend! I get bored to tears! If I do go somewhere, I have to take Mom along and it's not easy getting her in and out of my small car, dragging her wheelchair along. I have a bad back and I suffer when I do this. So you can see, I have no social life whatsoever, except maybe lunch with friends on wkdays while Mom's at daycare. I haven't been out on a Sat eve in over 5 yrs!! I guess it's all starting to get overwhelming (not that it hasn't been before!) now that Mom's total care. But for as much as I complain, I LOVE taking care of Mom and feel privileged to be able to do this. It's "the hardest job I'll ever LOVE!" Let's hear your story...?