Worried about my dad

Discussion in 'Fibromyalgia Main Forum' started by Crispangel66, Mar 4, 2006.

  1. Crispangel66

    Crispangel66 New Member

    My dad is an amputee and needs assistance getting around, well about 4mths ago my Step-Mom was doing most of his care until she had a mild stroke but it was bad enough that my daughter and her husband has took over helping him

    Now let me explain my dad is still working he is a dispatcher in the oil field, he's been with the same company since he was a teenager, now he's in his 60's.

    He just needs help with other things, that he can't do with one leg, yes he does have a prostetic but he is still gettting used to it.

    Well my Step-Mom's dad died and he lived about 3hrs away from my Dad and Step-Mom, they went to the funeral and my S/M decided to stay and said it would only be about 1 week. Well now she doesn't want to come back at all.

    My Dad is having surgery on the 20th of Mrch and it is serious enough that we are travelling the 9hr drive to be there so I am so worried about my dad just giving up after they have been married for 29years.

    Yes I have finally forgave her for taking away my daddy as I was a daddy's girl and still am. I have realized he really does love her and vise/versa.

    I don't know what to say to her to make her come home.

    What's weird is my mom is buried in that part of Texas and I too felt like I was abandoning her when we left to go home a 6hr drive away from there. But I couldn't just abandon my hubby and son.

    Sorry this is so long but do any of ya'll have suggestions?
    Thanks in advance. Pamela
  2. CanBrit

    CanBrit Member

    Is she maybe suffering from some damage as a result of the stroke? Was it a brain bleed that caused it. I know that strokes certainly can alter the states of people who suffer them.

    Maybe someone could get her to go and see a specialist, or she follows up with the person she had. 29 years is a long time to be with someone and then just suddenly decide "I'm outta here"

    Were they having problems before this stroke? Maybe you could call her and have a bit of a heart to heart and find out what's up?

    I can't suggest anything else. I'll say a prayer for a good outcome for you Dad.

    Regards,

    Eileen.
  3. Lindy2

    Lindy2 New Member

    Did she say that she was definetely not coming back. Maybe she is feeling quilty because she was not there for her dad when he passed?

    Maybe call her and talk with her like the other poster mentioned and discuss your worries with her about your dad. That is a long time to be married and walk out after 29 years of marriage.

    I hope this works out for you and your dad because I know what it's like to have conflict in the family and the major stress it causes.

    I wish I could help more and I will keep all of you in my thoughts and prayers.


    P.S. I wanted to add a compliment to your dad because he sounds like a strong man for going through what he already has and still working after all of these years.

    Hugs,
    Lindy
    [This Message was Edited on 03/05/2006]
  4. Mikie

    Mikie Moderator

    I am sending up a prayer for you and your family, especially your Dad so that his surgery goes well. God bless you.

    Love, Mikie